Bridal Diaries pt 2
Thoughts from a Bride to Be – What’s your big theme and story?
I realized very quickly that being born into a South Asian family, meant larger than life celebrations for everything!
The idea of a wedding is essentially the coming together of two lives, but who are we kidding here? When do we South Asians leave it to just a simple coming together? We turn every milestone event in our life into a big production and celebration. Off course, weddings are the epitome of that larger than life party.
As I was sitting down to plan my wedding with my fiancé, I was often asked questions like, “ what’s your theme?”, “do you have a vision and a story?”, “ this theme is really popular right now, you should do it.”
But what if you don’t? What if you’re a bride who doesn’t really need every aspect and every part of your wedding to match or have a story? The current obsession with celebrity weddings, social media, and live broadcasts on Facebook of numerous weddings around the world, has created this feeling of lacking amongst so many brides. So many engaged girls that I meet tell me they feel pressured to have some story or some theme as this seems to be the “it” thing to do. As much as I love my social media (after all I am a media gal) for all of the instant updates and information sharing perks it has; I think it has caused so much unnecessary stress for brides, as they feel like they need to join in some sort of race.
STOP RIGHT NOW, THANK YOU VERY MUCH
Be genuine with yourself. Don’t make your wedding into a show for others, make it into a memory for yourself and your partner. If you have a story or a theme that links to your lives by all means share it and use it to help create your dream wedding, but if you don’t, or you choose not to incorporate it, that is totally fine as well. That does not change or take anything away from you on your special day.
Me and my fiancé met on a train, and off course the classic Bollywood Dilwale Dulhania Le Jayenge reference is forever associated with us, but I made sure our story is not just that. Our story is not just about two people meeting on a train. Our story is so much more. It’s about two cities, a Montreal girl and a Toronto guy meeting, it’s about our different personalities, and our common love for our Indian Culture. It’s about us and who we are.
My Bridal Tip of the Week:
It’s not how many social media likes or clicks you are going to get, it’s not about which wedding themes are currently trending online and it’s not about a simple story of you and your partner. It’s about who you both are, and your journey of coming together. That is what is going to make your wedding such a cherished and authentic memory.
Until Next Time,
Bride to Be – Ruchika Bindra
May 25.2018 Big Day
